Dealing with anxiety: Raise yourself before raising your kids!

‘Your child will become who you are’ – there’s no two ways about it – Children copy us. As parents / educators we have a major role to play in moulding a child’s emotions, in turn will shape the overall demeanour.  Before defining anxiety let me reiterate a child will learn what he lives! So before branding a child anxious, we need to check our behaviour and also understandmild fears are common in children which declines with age.So check where you and your child stand!

Merriam -Webster defines anxiety as a state of being anxious. Whereas, a medical dictionary has defined anxiety a multisystem response to a perceived threat or danger. It reflects a combination of biochemical changes in the body, the patient's personal history and memory, and the social situation. Definitely these definitions demand an immediate adult intervention if the child is anxious most of the time, especially during the present testing period.

Anxiety and Depression in Children ( CDC)  always involves parents in therapy. Children are mirrors where we can see ourselves. So, the first step to curb your child’s anxiety is you keep your anxiety level under control. CALM DOWN! Do not portray your anxiety, and let our children feel a safe shade when they are around us.

Next, be a good friend to your child. They do not want a disciplinarian moving around their house bossing them round the clock. Be the companion who the child will trust and look up to for solutions for all the problems.

Practise relaxation exercises like deep breathing and meditation with your children. Remaining physically and emotionally healthy is very important during this pandemic. These exercises will nurture the bonding between you and the child helping them deal with their anxiety in a healthy manner.

If still, anxiety persists the next step is getting expert help. Talk to the school behavioural counsellor for appropriate actions. Assist the child to follow the routine suggested by the counsellor. If needed, opt the fifth step, meeting a mental health professional to deal with this in a medical way. This is needed only if the child is not facing the developmental challenges in a healthy way and the child is finding it difficult to cope with the daily responsibilities.

Manchester International School Coimbatore, the only IB continuum school in the city, strongly believes the importance of students’ emotional well-being in the overall development as Independent learners.The school has a behavioural counselling department which ensures the mental health and wellbeing of staff and students.

To conclude, teach the children one of the best lessons they can learn in life is to master how to remain calm!! So Breatheeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!